Steve Forbert hit the folk scene running at age 19 and then his first album alive on arrival was a mega-hit. My favourite song on this album is – It isn’t going to be that way.
How could a nineteen year old write a song with such wisdom. It resonates for me because as a nineteen year old I thought I wanted to create a coffee house and host amazing troubadours and then as a twenty-four year old I thought I would be one of those troubadours and so on. Well it’s now 2023 and I have meandered through many chapters of life – Early Childhood Education, School Board Trustee, Leadership Development and Coaching consultant, End of life Care Executive Director, and now I am on the board of Kootenay Coop Radio. KCR is a community radio station and I get to interview interesting community people including some young and amazing musicians (like Sapphire Guthrie) and give them a voice along with some old favourites like Rick Scott from Pied Pumpkin who taught me so much about playing dulcimer and finding joy in music.
In May of 2020, at the beginning of Covid I wondered what we would learn from Covid. Here is my list some of the lessons I thought we might encournter.
Lessons:
Slow down – the pace for some of us is slower (not health care professionals or parents of young children) and this allows for different feelings and thoughts to emerge.
Ask – What is important to me?- Is it people, specific people, routines, self-care, global travel, being with friends and family, democracy, arguing with people on facebook, ???
Pause – When jumping in the car to go do the next thing, rush to the store for the grocery items I’m missing, or go have supper with friends isn’t an option – what do I do instead? Take a deep breathe and ask – what serves a deeper need right now.
We are not in control – I realize how much I live with the illusion that I have a lot of control. I don’t. This Covid experience tells us we are not in control and how can I use that to look at how I live my life and discern where would it be helpful to let go of that illusion of control?
Connect with self-worth – I read a short article the other day that had the author expressing that they usually get their self-worth from doing and now they have had to pause and really dig into the idea that they have inherent self-worth and to disconnect from that old belief.
Go Outside and play– My mom used to say this everyday to me and my sibs. I know that nature helps me connect to self, to others, to aliveness. This photo is from a trip last year to Utah and the great parks including this trip to Horseshoe Bend. It is a magical place. We need magic right now and we need it all of our lives.
Government and Institutions are not the enemy – There are so many conspiracy theories out there and most display an amazing mistrust in gov’t and authority. Here in BC Dr. Bonnie Henry and Health Minister Adrian Dix have been doing almost daily press conferences. They keep it simple, they give us the latest facts on cases, deaths, and developments. The curve has been flattened and now as we slowly relax controls we will see what they suggest. This is in contrast to masked gunmen in the Michigan legislature with assault rifles demanding their freedom back, with the representatives ready to vote and fearing for their lives. I’ve been studying conspiracy theory to try to understand what is at play. Here is an article from Psychology Today.
I have also been trying to dig deeper on this idea and found Charles Eisenstein’s article The Conspiracy Myth to be very provocative in challenging the way I see the world and viewpoints and opinions of people and especially public figures. It reminded me that polarization misses the point of critical thinking around what is of value in any theory or perspective and how can I draw from many viewpoints to have a more well-rounded perspective. It is a struggle for me and I am working the process.
My friend Anni Holtby and I have worked with some ideas from Polarity Theory to help groups see the value of the ideas at the poles and to recognize when hyper focusing on one pole creates problems. It also has processes for gaining the most from the poles and seeing the warning signs that the other pole needs attention also.
We need to switch from a belief that we are here to focus on and support the economy to a new perspective that the economy should follow and serve us – until Covid we would never have stopped travel, shut down businesses, create significant support programs and yet in 10 weeks we have done just that. It has created huge disruption and it gives us a chance to say what do we want in terms of economic development and what does that mean for work for people? At the same time we can look at what type of gov’t do we want? Contrast the styles of Trudeau and Trump, look at how other countries are looking after people, who is thriving and where are the cracks large and deep.
I have read some articles by Umair Haque recently from his site – Eudaimonia & Co. about a different approach – focusing on Eudaimonics instead of economics. Well-being, how people develop themselves in their work, how we care for our home and our family and friends, and this planet as we live and create things. It is a new take and I’m going to dive in and I recommend it as a good starting place for those who like to study, politics, society, development, and possibilities.
These are my thoughts today as I pause, think about what is important and try to find the heart of the matter in the time of a pandemic.