This is a very good post from Dr. Anthony Wolf that appears in the Globe and Mail today. In this post he talks about the arguments we get into with teens and suggests that after we state our position that we can listen but we should stop trying to convince our teens that we are right and not get drawn further into the argument. Easy to say, hard to do. Anthony E. Wolf is a Clinical psychologist and the author of six parenting books including I’d Listen to My Parents if They’d Just Shut Up.
I’ve read his earlier book – Get out of my life, but first could you drive me and Cheryl to the mall? I used his advice on handling curfews with teens and found it quite effective.